• How to Find a Good Personal Coach

    “Life coaching” as a concept has been around for a long time. Most people are familiar with it to a certain degree. Many people are unaware of it as a viable professional option… or, likewise, as an option for them to take advantage of, should they find themselves feeling trapped and confused by the intricacies of day-to-day modern life. There’s nothing to be ashamed of in that: we didn’t evolve over millions of years dealing with the many difficulties of urban living, job-related stress, financial concerns, or organizing an array of personal and professional matters in calendars, planners, and PDAs so as to have it all neatly sorted away and filed.

    We evolved struggling to accomplish goals that were simple to understand, which came with immediate rewards at the end of our period of toil. We toiled to find food… then we ate well. We toiled to make simple tools… which then made other aspects of our lives easier. We toiled to find shelter… then we slept, safe from the attacks of wild animals, and from the dangers of the elements. We toiled to build a fire, whereupon the animals stayed away, the cold was staved off, we could cook our food to release additional levels of nourishment, and we could see at night. This was our existence for hundreds of thousands of years, until the relative “yesterday” when we developed agriculture, domesticated animals, and began to build the collections of habitation which are now known as cities and towns.

    Sometimes… the entirely new breed of concern created by our modern lifestyle – the exact opposite of what we’re made for; easily broken-down tasks in complicated and convoluted arrays, working towards long-term goals that are sometimes difficult to visualize – can be difficult to deal with. A life coach can help you with that; they can help you to come up with a strategy to confront the problems you’re having trouble dealing with. They can help you to organize your concerns, and stay focused on your long-term goals, without breaking down in the meanwhile. Here are a few things to bear in mind when looking for such an individual:

    • Avoid “magic bullets.” No reliable, trustworthy personal coach will promise to solve all of your problems in a single sitting. The good ones will develop a rapport with you over time, and will invest the energy into doing so properly.

    • Avoid seminars. Workshops and seminars involve treating people like they, and their problems, are all exactly the same. If that was the case, we wouldn’t need life coaches; anybody could help us out. Worse, it leaves one feeling as though they’ve failed in life – that the “same issues” everybody else deals with were too much for they themselves, and for them alone.

    • Take baby steps. Disregarding the potentially disturbing “What About Bob?” reference, baby steps are the way to go. The concept involves breaking down the specific aspects of your life which you are having trouble managing into smaller, more easy to manage tasks and concepts. This, coupled with the development of planning and organizational skills, is a well-demonstrated way to go about improving one’s coping skills in the long-term.

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